Forgive and Live on
There have been times when I held onto grudges and refused to forgive those who had wronged me. It would be months to years of isolation, thinking it would bring me peace. Although the peace I obtained existed, it was only temporary. The truth was that I could not run away from the unresolved issues, but face them head on. I would confess my feelings and set boundaries to assure that the same things wouldn’t reoccur. In those moments I accepted that there was absolutely nothing I could do to change any of it, so I embraced my willingness to forgive and moved on.
The most positive thing family can do is be supportive at all times. It’s the little things, such as being that listening ear or shoulder to cry on, that upholds the positive energy.
The five everyday things that bring me happiness are: the relationship I have established with God, my children, my well-being, to have the beautiful gift of life, and last but not least, a peace of mind.
To Be Chosen
There must be something elucidating at the end of this tunnel. I bend down to climb in and the feeling of fear hits me. I am one that rarely asks “why?”, as it is a question that I may never want an answer for. So I shove the fear aside and begin to crawl into this unfamiliar space. It’s rough as I’m passing through each section of emotions where I feel my heart beginning to break….so I let it. Where I feel negative thoughts rushing through my mind…..so I get enraged. Where I feel numb…..so I’m stuck. Where I feel alone…..so I’m sad. Then there is a light I see a few crawls up the path. Once I’m within reach, every feeling I felt along the way subsides. It is replaced with God’s assurance. Assurance that He will always be there to fix my heart when it breaks. Assurance that all negative thoughts are only there to “attempt” to shift my faith in His love for me. Assurance that a state of numbness is when He has paused me to work a bit harder on restoration. Assurance that He constantly walks with me so I won’t ever be alone. I can feel myself smiling as I continue to crawl. I am not at the point of the tunnel where it says I must climb out….so I do. As I climb out into the fresh air and look up, there is a message in the sky that reads:
“Here is where your journey begins. For every time you may have questions, fall onto your knees and pray to me, knowing that I will come. And the question that you claim to never want an answer for is simply because I see many strengths in you to be chosen for this assignment.”
All Your Perfects by: Colleen Hoover
Whispers in the Wind
I lie in bed in silence. The memories are all I have as I find myself drifting into deep sleep thinking of you. I am in this fantasy world where we are reconnected. It feels so real as I feel your presence being shared in this fabricated reality. Everything about you is the same except for your voice. It’s a whisper. One that isn’t clear and quickly fades away in the wind. I do my best to reach out and catch every word but they’re not within my reach. The words that fade away aren’t meant to be heard, only spoken. So know that I understand and I will wait for the day the clarity of your voice comes, and I can hear those muted words. I have accepted that your presence says it all for now. It assures me that you are with us and we are at peace…..and I awake.
A Piece of You
Losing To Gain
The author reflects on becoming a widower, acknowledging the ongoing struggle with sadness and the search for meaning. They find strength in coping mechanisms, particularly in allowing themselves time to grieve. Though others may claim the pain will fade, the author believes it will endure, aiming to find purpose in their experience to support others.
I never imagined that I would be one to sit in the seat of a widower, but God chose me to take this journey. There are days when I am sad and there are days when I choose not to be. I am still in the phase of understanding the “why’s” and “what if’s” and the process is just that….a process. God has given me an unknown strength on how to utilize different coping mechanisms, but the one that helps me the most is taking the time I need to grieve. There are going to be many who tell you that the pain will go away over time. It’s untrue. The pain of losing a loved one will never go away. It only eases with time, so I am going through this loss with the faith and hope to gain another life experience that I can share with and help others.